Remember, you may not experience any/all of the steps listed above. No matter how you react or how that changes over your partner’s deployment, be sure to seek support when you need it.
Helping spouses cope with their partner’s separation
- Create a support network. Find local resources through MilitaryINSTALLATIONS, connect with your local church, synagogue or mosque for support, and connect with members of your family to ensure that you receive emotional and household support while your loved one is away.
- Prepare for your loved one’s separation ahead of time. If possible, collaborate with friends, family and your service member to set up routines, tasks and payments before your partner leaves for their duty assignment. This will ensure a smoother transition into life while your spouse is away.
- Attend a Yellow Ribbon Reintegration Program event. One of the best ways to learn about benefits and entitlements your family is eligible for as a result of your spouse’s service in the National Guard is to attend a local Yellow Ribbon Reintegration Program event.
- Rely on your state/territory support program staff. The National Guard Bureau sponsors a number of programs to support service members and their families. Locate your state/territory staff in MilitaryINSTALLATIONS.
- Get connected. Write, email or send care packages to your loved one to help you feel connected while they’re away. For your own support, social networks are a great way to find other military spouses who may be experiencing the same things you are.
Helping spouses support their service members
If your service member is showing signs of emotional distress, help is available. Contact your Director of Psychological Health for local resources or contact the Military Crisis Line at 988 (press 1). In the meantime, follow these basic tips:
- Be sensitive to your service member’s desire to discuss what they experienced during their deployment.
- If they do want to talk, be a patient, receptive listener.
- Encourage your partner to seek the counsel of a trusted advisor, spiritual leader or respected peer/family member.
Helping military children
Military children face unique challenges. They require special attention to help them adjust to the absence of a deployed family member, endure frequent relocations or cope with other issues related to having a loved one in the National Guard. Learn:
- Why supporting military kids matters
- Signs of distress in military children
- Tips for helping a military child
Learn how to be the best possible parent to your military child »
Helping military parents
Parents can experience a wide range of emotions regarding their son or daughter’s service in the National Guard, from pride in their accomplishments to fear for their safety. It’s common to feel anxious, but supporting your son or daughter is the best way you can express your love and concern for their well-being.
Below are some strategies to help you be the best parent you can be to your service member.
Support for Military
